After rehashing all of our moving experiences earlier this week, it made us wonder if we’ll ever settle down in one place. Johnny and I really hope to put down roots somewhere someday. We want to buy a house, dig in, and become invested in a community. I moved around a lot as a kid, and like it I did not. Johnny lived in one place during his childhood and love it he did. Weird speak this is. But Friday today is, so okay it is. But seriously, I’m gonna stop now. What was I saying? Oh, yes… by the time our girl starts school, we’d like to be settled somewhere. That gives us about five more years to find a location that we love and never want to leave.
We’ve really enjoyed moving to new places: schooling in Utah, jobs in NYC and Boston, and now a job in North Carolina. But while we’ve loved every place, none of these locations is our “forever place.” Johnny grew up in Los Angeles, and we spent a few months living there the summer before we graduated from college. So I’ve gotten a taste of LA living as well. And location-wise, LA fits the bill for us. It has warm weather year-round, a beach, and a more laid-back way of life that fits us. Plus, there are a ton of advertising agencies in LA, so Johnny could switch agencies (which is how one moves up in his industry) without us having to move.
But all of that said, financially Los Angeles isn’t really making sense for us. It’s not even that the housing is outrageously expensive. We’re okay with living in small spaces. It’s that California’s economy is in the hole, and their taxes are [curse word(s)]. So we hope the state of California shapes up in the next few years, but the odds don’t look too good. And so, we’re back to square one, wondering where our forever place will be.
We know what we want, we’re just not certain where we’ll find those things. Here’s our must-haves in a location:
- Warm weather
- Young, fresh community
- Thriving state economy, plus low taxes
- Location where Johnny’s career would work long-term
We have a few states in mind, but we’ve never lived in any of them, so our thoughts on those locations are all just based on hearsay. And then we sometimes wonder this: are we crazy to think we should put down roots and stay somewhere forever? I mean, I didn’t like moving around a lot growing up, but I don’t think I’m any the worse for wear because of it (aside from my brain exploding every time someone asks, “Where did you grow up?”).
And it seems that maybe our generation is more transient than our parents’ and grandparents’ generations were. For the most part, our generation doesn’t work at the same company for 40 years, with a pretty pension plan come retirement. We switch jobs often, networking and zigzagging our way through careers, rather than staying on one, defined course. And our friends aren’t just limited to the people we live near. We can get up and move and easily keep contact with all our friends and family thanks to social media, email, and video chatting. So who knows… maybe in a few years we’ll decide that staying in one place isn’t a requirement at all. And instead of finding a forever place we’ll be forever nomads.
Are you in your forever location? If not, do you know where you want to end up? Or are you content with moving from place to place as better opportunities open up? Curious we are.