For the past few months, Johnny’s been traveling for work more often than he usually does. Sally and I miss him while he’s away, but we fare the best we can. We keep very busy and have special outings and activities while he’s gone. But there’s this other thing that also happens when he leaves… I get this overwhelming desire to spend money. I don’t know what it is, but every time Johnny goes out of town, my spending gets a little bit crazy. However, I do have a few theories as to why this happens.
First, I feel like I deserve it. After all, I am taking on single-mom status for several days. Since taking care of Sally is suddenly so much harder (it isn’t) now that Johnny’s across the country instead of working across the street, I feel that Sally and I deserve special privileges. We eat out. We go on special outings. We do crafts. And I know Johnny’s eating every meal on his company’s dime, and so I feel like Sally and I should get to eat extra yummy food, too.
Second, my normal routine is disrupted. Fixing dinner for myself and a toddler is much different than fixing a dinner for the three of us. And so we do something easy, like pizza or some other (non)healthy meal. I also meet up with friends for lunch because I’m bored and Johnny’s not coming home for lunch. And it gives me the opportunity to eat at all the girly restaurants that Johnny hates.
Third, I get an itch to start a project. I have a hard time sitting still, especially when I’m by myself. When Johnny goes on work trips, I have a lot of alone time, which often leads to me trying to start and finish a huge project while he’s away. Sometimes these projects cost money. Sometimes they simply involve totally rearranging our bedroom. When he went on his last trip, I bought two nightstands for our bedroom and hung five different frames in different areas of our house. Johnny tends to be leery of my “Let’s change the office into a playroom and turn our house upside down!” house projects, and when he’s not here, I know I can do it and ask forgiveness later.
Johnny has yet another work trip coming up, and while he’s away, I intend to document anything out of the ordinary that I spend. And I will report back on how I do, good or bad. I’m really gonna try to restrain myself this time around. And now I have to ask… does ANYONE else with a traveling spouse do this? Or am I just crazy? Don’t answer that second question. Any other theories for why my spending goes berserk when he’s away? Maybe instead of eating my feelings, I’m spending them? I don’t know…
p.s. Here are a few pictures from our drive in the mountains this weekend. Fall comes and goes in a flash in Utah, but it sure is purdy while it lasts.