In the What If Wednesday series, we transport to a hypothetical alternate-reality and watch life play out. And we do it on Wednesday, because alliteration.
You’re perusing Facebook (at work… shhh!) one fine Wednesday morning when you see the news. Martha (or Jenny, or what have you) is engaged! Yes, the I’m never, ever, ever getting married! Martha. You’re surprised you hadn’t heard the news already since you two are close friends (although not quite bestie status). And then your phone begins ringing, and it’s — you guessed it — Martha. After you quit screaming excitedly into the phone, she gets down to the nitty gritty. Will you be a bridesmaid? But of course! And it’s settled, and you’re feeling so very, very happy for dear Martha.
But then the realities of bridesmaid-erdom set in. Martha has lovely, but expensive, taste. The dress she’s chosen for all the bridesmaids to wear is going to cost you $300. And that’s on top of your plane ticket and hotel room for the wedding, which is taking place in Hawaii. And there’s one other teensy-weensy problem: you’re in the process of paying off debt. You’re on a tight budget, and every extra cent is going toward paying it down. And suddenly the idea of being a bridesmaid is causing your stomach to churn.
So which will you choose? Being a good friend and being a bridesmaid or staying focused in paying down your debt?
This one’s a toughie. Martha is a dear, dear friend. Actually, I’ve never known anyone by the name of Martha, but she sounds pretty great. Johnny and I talked it over, and, unfortunately, Martha is going to have to find another bridesmaid to take my place. When we were paying down our debt, an expense like this would have been a huge detour on our path to becoming debt free. Like a six-month detour.
If Martha had been a bestie, we’d probably figure out a way to make it happen. But as is, she’ll just be receiving a really high-tech Crockpot in the mail from yours truly. We promise we’re not terrible friends, but you have to draw the line somewhere.
Now it’s your turn to spill the beans. Good friend getting married in Hawaii. Pricey bill. Do you accept the role of bridesmaid/groomsman over slaying the Debt Monster?